How to Improve Your Confidence

There are many different ways to improve your confidence, there are classes you can pay for or there are simple activities you can do for yourself. Here we will show you some of these simple methods you can do.

How to Build Confidence

How to feel confident when you need to:
Self-confidence and feeling good has a major 'hormonal' element, you can change the way you are feeling just by re-living good memories. If you remember a time where you were high in self-confidence and felt great, then use that memory. Use a picture if you have one to remind yourself of a happy time. By taking control of your thoughts and emotions it will have a huge impact on your self-confidence.

Beating self consciousness:
Being too self-conscious is what destroys your self-confidence. The trick is to keeping your attention occupied and off yourself when you have to.

Here's how to keep the attention off yourself:
1. When you start to feel self-conscious, you can tell this because you will start to feel anxious and worried, choose an object around you (that is not yourself) and study it in detail. For example; if there is a lamp or door near you look at the different textures and patterns, the shades of colours or any cracks in it. The key is just to focus on something else so you do not think about what ever it was you were being self-conscious about.

2. Social self-confidence is much harder to find because sometimes you are unclear what you need to actually do.
In the event of this just concentrate on what you are there to do, whether it is:
- Make others feel comfortable
- Make business contacts
- Find out some information
- Find out if you like the other people present.
- Any other reason you might be there.
It is hard to feel self-conscious if your mind is occupied with some task.

Undue Criticism

A very common trait in un-confident people is that they give themselves undue criticism and they constantly put themselves down. Have you noticed when they speak to themselves in a way that they would never speak to some one else, for example if they break a glass they say to themselves ''oh, you stupid idiot, you can’t do anything right''. Self-criticism and negativity just damages your confidence even more.

Saying things like ''I'm no good at anything'' and negative comments like that, then your wrong. Negative thinking can make stuff seem hopeless when they rarely are. When you say these negative statements, say to yourself calmly and gently ''Wait a sec here, that's not true''. If you can also come up with some evidence, like a good achievement you've done, then just remind yourself of that and how you could not have achieved that if you ''no good at anything''. Confident people have bad moments too, you just don't hear about them.
Instead of thinking ''why did this happen'' and ''why do I feel this way'', you need to turn it around so instead you say ''how would I like to feel'' and ''I've learnt from what happened here and can use it to better myself''. If your feeling un-confident, it doesn't matter people are too caught up in their own problems to notice. Self-confidence doesn't come at once it takes time and perseverance. Just keep following the tips and confidence will come.

Conquering nerves:

Being nervous or unconfident is the main reason most men don't get the amount of women they desire. The fear of approaching beautiful women puts doubt in your mind and lowers your confidence, stopping you from approaching many other females.

As it is so important NOT to be nervous, it is vital to learn how to overcome these nerves. The cure is simple as well, all you have to do is go up to any random person and speak to them. Whether they be fat, thin, old, young, male or female just go up to them and start a conversation about neutral, current topics. The conversations don't have to be long just 30 seconds or so. You can even add in a comment to an over heard conversation, just get used to speaking to any one regardless of who they are. By doing this you are building up your confidence for approaching people, till eventually you are not afraid to approach any one.

Once you feel your ready to approach anyone, you must be careful that you don't become outcome dependant. This is where all you have is sex in mind. Having thoughts like ''I'm going to lay this chick'' will not do you any favours before you've even said 'Hi', you would have failed.

The trick is when chatting up a girl you don't have the outcome of sex in your mind; a good opener is to ask her opinion on something, like 'hey, I need a quick female opinion on (then add something for her to make an opinion on)''. When you have no outcome in mind, you will not care about a rude comment.

The secret about nerves is that it comes from within, when approaching something you are scared of (like a beautiful woman) a series of thoughts go through your mind like ''she wouldn’t be interested in me'' or you picture her rejecting you. You start to feel tense and decide to not chat her up.

The way to stop feeling nerves is to notice your negative thoughts and change them. Instead of thinking ''She is going to reject me because I fumble my words''…think ''It's amazing that I'm approaching this girl, because if she rejects me it means I've gotten her out of my way and I'm one step closer to finding my dream gir''. Overcoming your nerves is like building a house you have to take it one brick or step at a time.