Building Deep rapport

Starting a Conversation:

The most essential thing to realize when starting conversation is that it is not what you say which is most important. Your composure and body language is what determines whether or not you will succeed.

Most guys use submissive, apologetic body language and voice tones. They almost look as if they're pleading with a woman to give them approval, and like they're nervous and self-conscious about the whole event.

The ''naturals'' who are successful with women are the opposite; they are cool calm and collected. When they approach a woman they do it as if she were an old friend. They aren't there to find out if the woman is going to give them some approval. Quite dissimilar in fact, they are trying to find out if the woman will meet their standards.

Instead of thinking whether she is going to like you or not, think if she's the kind of exceptional woman that you would like to get to know better. It's a big shift in psyche but it will help you significantly.

Simple conversation starters work well because they do not sound like pick-up lines and the girl will be disarmed because she will think you are being genuine.

Examples of simple conversation starters:
''Hi''
''What are you drinking''
''Hi, are you from around here''

Remember though relaxed body language is the key.

When starting conversation

1.Do not ask loads of questions in quick succession: The person you are talking to should not feel like they are being interrogated. Do not keep firing questions without giving your own opinion. Asking too many questions quickly will make the person feel very uncomfortable and they will want to leave.

2.Be humorous: This does not mean you need to be a stand up comedian, but a funny opener will make them relax and feel more comfortable in your presence. This links to the cocky and funny approach and why it is so successful. For example say to her '' why did you bring a lunchbox with you?'' talking about her handbag. The cocky and funny approach should get her laughing or she will act defensive, which means you will be in control.

3.Ask open-ended questions: These are questions that require more than a 'yes' or 'no' answer. Open-ended questions forces people to elaborate and that is how conversation is made, you are drawing them into a conversation. It is very useful if you prepare open-ended questions before; the best bet is to use questions, which they don’t have every day an interesting conversation that they will remember.

4.Make sure they are comfortable: If you notice they seem uncomfortable on that conversation topic then change it, if there is any awkwardness then remove it by moving on. Watch invading personal space at first but after a while try introducing Kino/touching.

Open-ended questions and topics:

''Who do you think lies more men or women?''
''If you were famous who would you be?''
''If you could change one thing about your past, what would it be?''
''What would be the first thing you buy if you won the lottery?''